tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post6918191407803192257..comments2023-07-29T14:34:41.305+01:00Comments on Eating disorders in boys: my teenage son's recovery from anorexia.: While we're on the subject of 'wanting' to recover and 'making choices'...Bev Mattocks Osbornehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02353718855920959097noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post-51309973873617068022012-01-01T11:11:32.965+00:002012-01-01T11:11:32.965+00:00That is such a brilliant analogy, VM. I am astonis...That is such a brilliant analogy, VM. I am astonished that the professionals don't cotton on to this fact too. In fact I might just use that analogy in the meeting I'm planning with our psych (when I finally hear from her...)Bev Mattocks Osbornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353718855920959097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post-33033526607566591852011-12-31T18:44:59.940+00:002011-12-31T18:44:59.940+00:00I am with you as well Matty. I don't know how...I am with you as well Matty. I don't know how often we were pointed to Vale's BMI as being "normal" although he was and is clearly underweight and at that time was having a struggle staying awake all day, feeling dizzy and extremely low energy. Vale is a 14 year old male who burns off whatever calories he happens to consume nearly as fast as he consumes them. Sticking a number on an ED patient is like asking someone how much taxes they would like to pay. They're never going to pick a higher number!Vale's Momhttp://fortheboysfromthismom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post-60953626343755021282011-12-30T14:07:09.536+00:002011-12-30T14:07:09.536+00:00Thank you for your comments, Anonymouses. I wish y...Thank you for your comments, Anonymouses. I wish you every success in your journeys towards recovery. It is a real sticking point with me that, like the 2nd Anon's daughter, Ben plucked the weight of 60kg out of the ether when asked what target weight he 'would be happy with' and has stuck with this like glue. I worry that next time his weight goes slightly over this he will feel the need to adjust back down again. This is why I need to talk to our psych who, incidentally, has not returned my call from the other day.<br /><br />xxxBev Mattocks Osbornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353718855920959097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post-49359888582442489162011-12-30T12:41:59.730+00:002011-12-30T12:41:59.730+00:00I could not agree more with your comments. My daug...I could not agree more with your comments. My daughter is in the early stages of refeeding and has had a 3week admission to in-pt unit for a low heart rate. Whilst in hospital she had a Dexer scan which helps calculate "minimum healthy weight" range. This range was openly discussed with my daughter and she has hung onto that number with dear life. If her weight goes over her very minimum, there is a great deal of distress to contend with. I wish this weight was never discussed with her. Like you Batty i think she could do with a few extra kg's on her above the healthy weight,. THAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7153163242529146660.post-43985361995684719412011-12-30T05:16:50.536+00:002011-12-30T05:16:50.536+00:00Totally agree. I'm recovering from AN and I ha...Totally agree. I'm recovering from AN and I happen to know that the target weight range that my dietitian and parents throw around (which would give me a BMI 18.5-19)is too low for me - having been restored to that weight several times, I know from experience that I have to seriously restrict to maintain it. Okay, it's a lot better than my current BMI of 14...and I realise they might be trying not to 'scare' me - but the only thing about it that scares me is the thought that they will think I've 'gone too far' if I get higher than that. Which obviously just reinforces my own very strong feeling of being fat at anything near a healthy weight. Luckily I'm at a point now where I'm ready to do what I know is right (i.e., gain to whatever weight is healthy and natural for me) but it would be a heck of a lot easier if I hadn't had these 'targets' given to me over and over again for the last 7 years. I'm glad that Ben has someone as savvy and caring as you to advocate for him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com