Today - Friday - I met up with Ben in Nando's in Sheffield for lunch before driving him home for the weekend, tons of dirty washing and all. Yes I was apprehensive, but I needn't have worried. After a rocky start to the week, things seem to have gone relatively well. Okay there's a ton of reading and studying to do, but that's to be expected. But he's been doing it, and he's been eating, and he's been socialising.
Tuesday night was tricky as the Wargaming Society didn't turn out to be as good as he'd anticipated. However the Roleplaying Soc on Wednesday went swimmingly well, packed with people on the same wavelength as Ben. He had a fantastic time. Thursday he went to the residences Christian Union meeting. That didn't go too well, so CU is out for the time being - primarily because it felt like Sunday School and not really up independent-thinker Ben's street. So he's going to give Thursday's Wargames group another go. Then there's the Assassins Society next Tuesday. (Don't ask...!) And he's met up with quite a few people in some of his seminar groups that he's clicked with.
So, all in all, things are moving forwards in the right direction.
Phew!
And it was a lighthearted Ben that chatted to me all the way home in the car, explaining the intricacies of how the Assassins Society works (don't ask...) and so on.
He also looks healthy, which was my biggest worry what with him having lost weight last week. And he ate a suitably big lunch at Nando's, including 2 pots of frozen yoghurt for dessert.
Now to get the washing machine on for the first load...
(How did I get talked into driving him back on Monday instead of him getting the train? Via the supermarket?)
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I recommend both Relish and the Graze Inn on Ecclesall rd for lunch :0) Glad Ben's week went well. Sounds like he's doing great trying out all the societies and managing to take the downs with the ups.....it smooths out eventually
ReplyDeleteIt's so nice to see another blog that specifically talks about male eating disorders. I invite you to read mine at scribd.com/pointofthought
ReplyDeleteThe more support we can give one another the better our chances of healing from our ED's!!! Keep writing, and I will try and read all your posts before I go into treatment next Wednesday!