... which is why I do, in the main, agree with Cathy's comment to yesterday's post (which I really appreciate). Here are my thoughts...
Thursday, 6 March 2014
Please eat...: A mother's struggle to free her teenage son from anorexia into German so families in Germany can read our story. It's been been given the thumbs up by the German proof-readers and is almost ready to be published - in paperback and as a Kindle download. This guy has generously spent hours and hours carefully translating my words (at his own suggestion) and we've finally managed to find German equivalents for all the British slang. (For example, where is Planet Zorg located? ;) Watch this space for more news!
Wednesday, 5 March 2014
"Okay, it's wonderful knowing that young people in Scotland are being given a better chance of recovery, and sustained recovery, from their eating disorders - but where does this leave us? How does it help us?" asked my husband.
Tuesday, 4 March 2014
No-one is claiming that FBT (Family Based Treatment) for eating disorders has a 100% success rate, nor that it works as effectively for adults with eating disorders as it does with adolescents. There are families where FBT has failed to help their child recover; indeed I know of some personally. But the reason why it is being rolled out across Scotland for families that request it is that studies and clinical trials have proven that it is significantly more effective in achieving a faster and more sustained recovery for adolescents than when alternative methods are used. And that, in my opinion, is as good a reason as any for everyone, wherever they live, to be permitted access to FBT.
This, it appears, is what The System is like in England (I know Wales is different). Things are so very, very complicated in England that it's almost impossible to explain. (Thanks Marcella for doing your level best to attempt to do so, though...) This, essentially, is almost certainly why FBT (Family Based Treatment) for eating disorders in adolescents is not being rolled out across England as it is in Scotland (which has a far, far simpler political system by the sound of things). Meanwhile young lives are being lost. Like the young man and women I learned about at the weekend - both university students who lost their lives to their eating disorder.
Gotta rush out, only got back late last night, so this is a copy of what I've just posted on the ATDT forum - will talk A LOT MORE when I get back. I have SO MUCH TO SAY I think I'm going to EXPLODE!!!!!!! Here it is...
Tuesday, 25 February 2014
It's Eating Disorders Awareness Week and, already, I've come across several references to eating disorders as illnesses that affect girls and young women. No mention of boys. Or, if there is a mention, it's only a passing reference. But, you know what? (And I know that most of my readers DO know, especially Sam Thomas of Men Get Eating Disorders Too who spends most of his waking hours trying to raise awareness of this inescapable and stark fact.) BOYS AND MEN GET EATING DISORDERS TOO!
Monday, 24 February 2014
It's Eating Disorders Awareness Week. So the media have dragged in various 'experts' to spout their stuff about what 'causes' eating disorders and how they might be prevented. It's a shame that, in some instances, these 'experts' aren't better informed. Indeed my network of parents (from the F.E.A.S.T. community) seem to know more about the ins and outs of eating disorders than they do.
Sunday, 23 February 2014
Prof James Lock (co-author of the very excellent and informative book Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder) is in Glasgow a week today for an information and discussion session on Family Based Treatment (FBT) for Eating Disorders - and I will be in the audience.
Thursday, 20 February 2014
During that critical period between year 11 and year 13 at high-school, Ben missed a heck of a lot of school. During year 11 he was plummeting into anorexia and ended up studying for his GCSEs at home while battling with this terrifying descent into a serious eating disorder. He never, ever managed to get back into school full-time. In an ideal world Ben - a highly articulate and intelligent young man - was predicted to get AAA at A-level. In the event, he got BBB plus an A in his Extended Project Qualification. Considering what he'd been through, this was an amazing feat and one that Sheffield University obviously recognised as they pointed us towards their Disrupted Studies scheme which is aimed at people who, like Ben, "have experienced issues of a personal, social or domestic nature that have affected either your post-16 studies, or any GCSE subjects that cited in our course entry requirements". We supplied all the relevant information and Ben won a place at Sheffield, a 'Russell Group' University like Leeds University.
Monday, 17 February 2014
Thursday, 6 February 2014
Oh I am so pissed off with the way fashion models and mannequins are so ridiculously skinny and present this look as the 'ideal' to young women and men. And the model gracing the front of the new mini NEXT catalogue I've just been sent in the post takes the biscuit. You can see this frankly emaciated figure here.
Tuesday, 28 January 2014
Thank you to everyone that's bought a copy of my book(s) within the last 2 weeks: all 20 x royalties are going to Charlotte's Helix, the pioneering eating disorder DNA project set up in memory of the amazing Charlotte Bevan who passed away from cancer a couple of weeks ago and who had such a positive impact on so many families' lives in the fight against eating disorders.
Wednesday, 22 January 2014
I think it was dear Charlotte's death last Monday that started it off but I've been mega down in the doldrums for a few days. You know, those days when you latch onto negative things rather than positive... For example today when I got my first negative book review on Amazon and - typically of me - I took it personally, despite the fact that I have umpteen excellent reviews.
Tuesday, 14 January 2014
I am donating the royalties of the next 20 books I sell to the extremely worthwhile cause, Charlotte's Helix, the DNA eating disorders initiative set up in memory of Charlotte Bevan who passed away from cancer yesterday. Find out more about Charlotte's Helix here - and visit my website to find out how to buy the books direct from me - or search 'Bev Mattocks' on Amazon. Or simply donate to Charlotte's Helix anyway. Thank you.
Monday, 13 January 2014
On the 9th March 2010, I discovered the Around The Dinner Table forum for parents of young people with eating disorders. It was like an oasis in a desert. I immediately posted my first post there and, within moments, the second parent to respond was a lady I came to know as 'cjbSuffolk'.
Saturday, 11 January 2014
... said Ben this morning as he popped onto the scales to see that he'd gained a kilo over the past week. But, as I explained to him, I was still a bit dazed. It was very early on a Saturday morning and I'd just woken up with a stonking headache (despite an alcohol-free January in a bid to be kind to my body after a rather enthusiastic consumption of red wine in the lead up to Christmas!)
Friday, 10 January 2014
For a limited period, I have cut the prices of the Kindle editions of my 2011 and 2012 blog posts to just £1.53 (the lowest price Kindle will let me sell them for, and unfortunately Kindle books - unlike printed books - include VAT). You can find them here: 2011 posts and 2012 posts. Meanwhile, when I get some time, I plan to publish the 2013 posts, too.
Everything has been relatively quiet. Ben is busy revising for uni exams which aren't until the end of the month, and so he is still at home. We are still working on gaining the bit of weight he lost during the first term at university, and will weigh him again on Sunday to make sure everything is still heading in the right direction. If not, he has agreed an increase in calories. And that's about it, really, for now!
Monday, 6 January 2014
When Ben was a little boy, I got him to eat home-made nut-and-cheese balls in spaghetti sauce by telling him they were my sister's recipe: Alison's Cheesy Balls. Basically, if he thought my sister adored these tasty nutty rissoles, then he wanted to eat them too. It's some time since we've had Alison's Cheesy Balls for dinner, but tonight Ben himself has cooked them for us - and I can't wait! You can find the original Rose Elliot recipe at the bottom of this blog post I've just found.