A couple of years ago I discovered a great little 'bolt hole' overlooking a wide bay at the seaside. The sunny, south facing living room looks straight out over the sea, the 2 bedrooms overlook the sea, everything overlooks the sea - and at night you can lie in bed, staring out across the high tide with the pretty lights reflected in the water.
Over the past 24 months I've used it as an 'escape' from the eating disorder. I'd leave Ben with his Dad and get the train or take the car down to my little seaside retreat.
However although you can distance yourself physically from the eating disorder, I found you can't do it mentally - and last August I had to leave after just 24 hours because I just couldn't relax and enjoy myself. I was as miserable as hell and felt completely trapped by the eating disorder. At that time I really couldn't see any lights at the end of the tunnel. Ben wasn't improving, in fact he was getting worse. And I found it difficult to handle being surrounded by 'normal' families having a 'normal' summer holiday. So I came back home.
But this year things have improved so much I'm taking Ben along with me.
We've got a great little itinerary planned. We'll take the train there, then spend 3 days visiting some really interesting places including Plymouth and Bath. Weather permitting, we'll take evening strolls along the prom to watch the tide come in and maybe stop off for a cappuccino or glass of wine at that chilled little bar overlooking the rock pools and peninsula. Also, I always like to do my annual 'pilgrimage' to my grandparents' old house - the sprawling Victorian villa where I used to spend every summer of the first 18 years of my life.
But first I must work out what we need to eat. Because we're going by train I can't take loads of snacks and stuff with me, however there is a supermarket right opposite the station and we can eat at Pizza Express. So that's my job today... to add up calories for a 'typical day's eating' to make sure Ben gets sufficient.
It's especially important as the scales have shown that his weight has remained stable for a couple of weeks and we need to increase!
Want information on eating disorders in boys? Worried your son has an eating disorder? What are the signs of eating disorders in boys? In 2009 my 15-year-old son developed anorexia. Now aged 31 and with a MSc in Psychology he is recovered & working in mental health using his experiences to help others. I help to raise awareness of eating disorders in boys, point parents to helpful resources & talk about how eating disorders can traumatise families.
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Ooh, you're in my old part of the world - well, sort of! The south west is great for escaping to, unless you live there ;) I hope you and Ben have a nice relaxing trip!
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