- Please, don’t judge us; you have no idea what it is like to have a child with a deadly illness that is made more complicated by societal misunderstanding.
- Please, don’t judge us; we didn’t cause the eating disorder and there’s no “underlying cause” (there may be additional issues; that’s not the same thing).
- Please, don’t judge us; we are likely hanging on by a thread with the umpteen appointments we have to get to, the grocery shopping, the cooking and having to supervise our kids meals to ensure they get the nutrition their bodies need.
- Please, don’t judge us; small talk will likely not be something we can do well right now. It’s not you, it’s us.
- Please, don’t judge us: the “tantrums” you may see from our formerly well behaved children are akin to the side effects of chemotherapy as a cancer treatment. Food is our child’s medicine, but a spoonful of sugar does not help it go down. Our children need your grace and so do we.
Thank you for this great, useful article, Jennifer Denise Ouellette.
It is so very important that people learn not to judge us: the parents, the family and the young person battling with the eating disorder.