The prices of Ben's favourite Warhammer models go up tomorrow, so yesterday he wanted to do a 'bulk buy' online. He didn't have enough cash so he asked for an 'advance' on the Contract points money. So I thought about it and said "OK, yes, in principle, but it would have to be a 'conditional' loan"...
It would be subject to him working on the rational, non-ED side of his mind when we go to CAMHS this afternoon to be weighed. If he's put on weight, then he must look at it in the context of the last 8 weeks i.e. as a weekly average. If it comes close to the 0.5kg a week that the NICE Guidelines recommend, then the rational side of his mind must accept this as being OK and plough on with our arrangement.
If he's lost or maintained weight and averages out at a low or no weight gain then he must agree to increase his daily calories by a further 100 and stick to that until he's weighed next time round when we will take a look over the long term yet again.
I also said we must revisit the Contract this weekend at some point and update it so it's relevant to what's going on in his recovery at the moment and addresses any new or difficult issues.
I also said that if he 'defaulted' on what is an 'interest free' loan (i.e. if he doesn't keep his word about the reaction to being weighed), then I would work out some kind of 'interest charge' on it which would result in less points over a specified period. Or something along those lines...
He agreed.
So we shall see what happens this afternoon...
Want information on eating disorders in boys? Worried your son has an eating disorder? What are the signs of eating disorders in boys? In 2009 my 15-year-old son developed anorexia. Now aged 31 and with a MSc in Psychology he is recovered & working in mental health using his experiences to help others. I help to raise awareness of eating disorders in boys, point parents to helpful resources & talk about how eating disorders can traumatise families.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
PART FOUR of the notes I was making as my son hurtled into anorexia in late 2009...
By November 2009, my son's escalating anorexia was making him behave incredibly erratically and my stress levels were stratospheric. The...
-
Yes, the session with the dietician went well, but she's not sure how helpful she can be to Ben at this stage. Perhaps, she suggested, i...
-
What is the ATDT (Around The Dinner Table) forum? It is a forum aimed at supporting parents of young people who are suffering from the full...
-
Ben feels a deep, deep sadness at the way the anorexia stole so many years out of his life - and out of our lives, too. There's a real s...
No comments:
Post a Comment