For some time now, our psych's assistant has been throwing spanners into the works in a way that makes me want to scream in frustration. Several times she's implied that it's OK for Ben to reach a "weight he feels happy with" and stick there rather than push further forwards and out of his current comfort zone. It's as if Ben gets to choose when he feels happy with a particular weight and, even if this weight isn't his natural Weight Restored weight, he can stick there if he'd rather not go any higher.
To me (and my network of mums, etc) this is like giving him permission to remain ill.
GFA says: "My perspective on the situation didn't come back until I had been maintaining a healthy weight for about six months. Now I can see where all the holes in my thinking were. The annoying thing is that I know if I were to relapse I would lose that perspective again, it's entirely dependent on keeping my weight and intake up. Brains are strange things :/ "
Basically I am not alone in believing that full brain healing only comes with full and proper weight restoration. Anything below this is just asking for relapse. And, of course, it takes work to maintain your weight at an artificially low level when your body is screaming out to level out at something a tad higher (or even a great deal higher). So Ben would forever be counting calories and scales-obsessed, never allowing himself to comfortably eat with friends or anything like that - all the usual things that a normal teenage boy would do without batting an eyelid, let alone reaching for the kitchen scales and calorie chart...
Sorry, CAMHS, but I'm not going to allow you to let Ben choose his final weight.