At least Ben is almost recovered so it's not a complete disaster that he is refusing further treatment. But imagine if I'd been the parent of a 19 year old who desperately needed help, but refused? I wonder what would have happened?
Would we still have been "discharged" like we were today? Would the assessor still have insisted that "If X doesn't want treatment then we can't force him / her to have it"? While I, the parent, sat there in fear and despair?
As we all know, eating disorder sufferers are notorious for claiming that there is nothing wrong, that they've got it all under control and don't need help.
Also, back at the start, Ben put on an Oscar-winning performance at CAMHS, convincing them that he was doing just fine when, in reality, he was disappearing down the rabbit hole like lightning.
CAMHS fell for it hook, line and sinker.
Then one day he broke down and confessed that it was all an act.
So I am so very thankful that Ben's situation isn't critical, or anywhere near critical (unless the suicide threats rear their ugly head again...).
Another parent might not have been so fortunate.
They, and their 18+ child, might have been discharged there and then.
Simply because, according to the law and many clinicians, these young people have to "want" treatment before it's given to them.